Confession – the one area of my life that is not working

I have a vulnerable confession to make.

You might see me as a woman that has it all…
an amazing husband and baby, a thriving business,
a dream life in california.

But, there’s one area of my life that I let slide.
I didn’t even realize I was settling.

But I realized this week that I had gotten so good
at making the best of a situation
and loving myself where I’m at,
that it actually almost had me settle
for less than I desire
and less than I deserve.
Click HERE to watch the short video I made to hear more.

may 25

I’m sharing this with you becuase it’s TIME
for women to stop settling.

And to claim what they deserve.
In love and in all other ares of life.

I’m sure you’ll be able to relate.

And, after you watch the video,
go to The Love Works Life facebook group
to share where you’ve been settling
and where you’re going to boldly CLAIM
to actually stop settling and have it all.


PS: My first facebook LIVE for #GetHot will be tomorrow at 5:30 AM!
Visit my facebook page then to  join me and I’m going to be sharing
HOW to get committed to a goal and stop settling.
And I’ll share more of my personal journey with you.
It’s EARLY in the morning for me, so you’ll see me in a baseball cap
and my pj’s…we’ll get close!

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Open If You Want to Be A Mom 

This week a client of mine messaged me in a tailspin
because she had read another dating coach’s email
which basically tried to use a massive amount of fear
to scare women into the fact that they biologically and statistically
must meet their man in their early 30s if they want to have kids.
(and this coach is a Man, by the way…)

And, I was pissed that this fear-based message is out there
and influencing women like my my client, who is 36, and started to freak out
feeling like maybe she missed her chance.

So today, on Mother’s Day
I wanted to send a message of FAITH, not fear
for anyone in my community
that wants to be a mom
and is trying to meet the man first to get to their dream of creating a family.

My Child Chose Me
by Nicole Moore

I’ve never had the experience of so badly wanting a child
and not being able to have one
because of lack of a man in my life
or my body or anything like that.

My child came to me.
And, he even let me know he was coming
before I was ready.

When I was 30.5 years old,
I was meditating
and, out of the blue,
I heard a voice say
“you’re going to have a baby when you’re 32 so get prepared”.

My eyes opened in shock and disbelief.

You see, at the time, I was completely single
and just couldn’t see how meeting a man and having a baby
could happen in such a short timeframe.

But, shocked as I was by that voice,
some part of me listened.
And, I did begin to prepare for the possibility of a baby
in my own ways.

Subconsciously, it drove me to work harder in my business
and make sure I got it to the place of more than enough.

I did a LOT of healing work on my wounded inner child
so that I could be healed
and be the most loving mom if I ever go the chance.

And, I dated.
Not in an “I need to find my husband and baby daddy” kind of way.

But intentionally.
Not with a eye just for “hotness” which honestly used to be my primary focus
but for substance.
I looked for a man who was centered, full of integrity
and who most of all had a truly loving heart.

And, I payed attention.
Like when a dating coach who I had interviewed for a project
told me randomly, just after I had moved to San Diego,
that I should be with a 36 year old man,
I listened.
And said yes to every single 36 year old that asked me out.

And, while swiping on Tinder one day in May
I saw a man come up who had written on his profile “keeping it zen”
and who was 36.
I said yes.

That man ended up being my now husband.

And, nearly a year after we met,
I was engaged and pregnant at 32.

As I look back at my story now, I can see
that life itself was leading me to the moment that I met Mike.

Because after I did, everything got better from there.
My business tripled.
My self-love grew even deeper as a result of his reflection
And, we had the most amazing little baby.

And as I sit here on Mother’s Day, filled with love
for this precious little soul,
I can’t help but think that it was HIM that was guiding me all along
so I could meet the man who was supposed to be his daddy.

I just know, when I look into my son’s eyes,
that we were meant to be family.

So, if you want to be a mom
but haven’t met the right man yet to create a family with,
I want to invite you to take a moment to connect.

Connect to the little baby that wants to come through you.
(whether it’s via pregnancy or adoption or maybe even stepkids)

Because my baby knew he was coming to me even before I did.
And, I’d be willing to bet that yours does too.

Let that desire to be a mom guide you
to open up and see how life is already trying to help you
find the right man to have a family with.

Are you paying attention?

Let that desire to be a mom guide you
to getting the support and help you need to heal
if there’s anything still in the way of you feeling fully worthy
of receiving and amazing man in your life and creating the family you dream of.

And, make finding your man not just about GETTING someone to love you,
but about creating the space to GIVE love
to that little baby who has already energetically said yes to you.

You know how they say shoot for the moon and you may hit the stars?

Go BIGGER in your love vision.
Connect to that beautiful little soul who’s meant to be yours
and you will be shown the path to meet the man who will lead you there.

But, when that path appears,
you must be brave enough to follow it.

Since that meditative moment
where my future spoke to me and let me know it was coming,
I was being guided by the soul that was meant to be my baby.

But, it wasn’t always easy to listen.

You see, I almost didn’t move to California,
which is where my man and father of my child was,
because I was scared.

I knew deep in my bones that I was done with NYC,
where I had lived my whole life
and that my man was in California
but I was stalling and stalling on moving because I was simply afraid
of leaving my comfort zone and everything I had known.

Can you imagine if I had let fear of change get in the way?

I almost cancelled the date with my now husband
because I had worked all day that Sunday
and I was tired.

Can you imagine if I had let working on my business and being busy
get in the way?

And, when the big love that is my husband got here,
I almost didn’t let him in
because 3 months after we met,
our egos got in the way
and we started to fight.

Thank God I had already learned HOW to love
and done the deep healing work before meeting him.

Can you imagine if I had let my ego get in the way?

I wouldn’t have what I have now.
A beautiful son that lights me up
and an incredible man who is such a loving dad.

So, if you’re sitting here on Mother’s Day
wanting to become a mom
and wanting to meet that man first
so you can start your family with him,
have hope.

Things can change faster than you think.
If you open up,
pay attention to the signs,
and let yourself be guided.

It’s very possible
that just like mine did,
your baby has already chosen you.

And he or she is just guiding you
to the exact teachers you need
to the exact experiences you need
and to the exact man that you need
to be ready to hold the BIG love
that your beautiful child will bring.


PS: If you are a single mom, I bow to you.
I know you are doing the absolute best that you can for your little one(s) every day
and that it’s hard and that your heart is just so strong.
And, I am sending a prayer your way that you find the man
who can be that rock solid support system for you
so you don’t have to do it all on your own.

If you want to have kids but are facing fertility challenges
or questioning freezing your eggs,
I haven’t gone through that personally but I have friends who are
and I know that it’s hard to keep the faith.
I’m sending you lots of love and a prayer that your baby dreams do come true.

If your heart is heavy on mother’s day because you are facing recent loss
or still healing wounds from your own relationship with your mother,
I’m sending a prayer that your heart be healed to wholeness.

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They Couldn’t Believe He Said This To Me

This Sunday I spoke on a Success Panel
in front of 50 women entrepreneurs about my business journey.

And after the panel, two women came up to me
to, of course, talk about love
becasue isn’t it the truth that even for super driven women,
what matters most, at the end of the day,
really is LOVE.

These women were inspired by me sharing how I 
attracted in a man who is a perfect match for me
and who accepts me and loves me completely.

One is 67 and has yet to meet a man
that she didn’t feel she was settling for.

The other has a chronic habit of putting work before business
because deep down, she doesn’t believe she can have it all.

As I took their info into my phone to give them a ticket
to Manifest Your Man Live on May 6th (my 1 Day Event in San Diego)
they noticed my cracked iphone screen.

And I said jokingly “I’m the clumsiest person in the world
but actually, I have a story about that and love.”

And I told them that when I was with my ex who became abusive,
he would criticize me for my clumsiness A LOT.
He also told me that I was too messy and that I was lucky he was with me
becuase no man would want to be with me. (yes, that hurt).

However, I’m still just as clumsy and messy as I was then.

But, my Man Mike has a different take on this.

What he tells me is:
“Of COURSE you’re messy Nicole, you’re a creative genius.”

And when I shared that with them, their mouths just opened wide in shock
because they couldn’t believe that a man could be so supportive of his woman
to the point where even her “flaws” are celebrate and loved.

But, it’s true.
You can actually have a man who loves ALL of you
and who you don’t have to compromise at all to be with.

Here’s what I want you to know:

When you are (or have been with) the wrong man, 
you can feel it. 

It feels like criticism, not being heard, not getting your needs met,
feeling like you have to pull teeth to get him to give you attention
or a full commitment.

When you are with the right man,
you can feel it too. 

It feels like total appreciation, someone who lives to light you up and make you happy,
someone who cares deeply about you and your needs
and someone who always wants to spend time with you.

You deserve to be with the right man for you austin.

Love is the most important thing in the world.

Your romantic partner is who you spend your LIFE with.

So, why compromise on it? 

Especially when you actually CAN have what you want in a man.

Here’s what I want you to do now:

1) If you are with a great man, I invite you to take a moment today to
appreciate how blessed you are.
Write 3 gratitudes about him and when you see him next,
look him in the eyes and just share WHY you appreciate him so much.

2) If you aren’t I invite you to take a moment
to dream about what it would be like to be with a man who is PERFECT for you.
No settling.
But someone who meets you where you’re at and actually helps you go even higher.

Here’s why you don’t want to wait to find love:

I tripled my business when I met my man Mike.
We moved into an amazing home with an ocean view and are now
looking for a home to buy together.
We created a beautiful family and have the most adorable son.

EVERYTHING in your life gets better when you find the right man.

Don’t wait for your business to get better to create the love of your dreams.
Don’t wait for your job to change or your living situation or your weight or anything else.

Real love makes everything else better.

If I can help in any way,
to get you to that perfect match for you,
I would love to.


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