Where are all the good guys? Do they even exist? Why can’t I find a guy who is spiritual and wants to grow with me? (Click here if you want to skip ahead to my juicy interview that answers all of these questions and more)
I hear these questions every week. And it breaks my heart to see women feeling so hurt, fearful and distrustful of men.
I see a big trend. Most women are hoping for and searching for a good guy, but deep down they’re not even sure if they exist, or if they can actually be the woman that attracts one.
And the thing is, you attract on the outside what’s within. If you feel deep down inside that you can’t trust men, you attract men who are untrustworthy. If you’re afraid men are just going to hurt you, you attract men who do.
My private clients get the inside scoop on what makes a great man want to commit, and they get a step-by-step action plan to move them from attracting men who hurt them to attracting really amazing guys. (if you want the inside scoop, hit reply to this email and I’ll share some secrets with you)
But I wanted to find a way to help even more women figure out how to attract and keep an evolved man. So, I have a special treat for you!
My friend Mike Hrostoski is a coach who helps men master their relationships with women and work, and I interviewed him to find out straight from a man what he’s looking for in a woman.
Mike is not only handsome, spiritual and successful, but he’s got a great heart and he really respects women….he’s a catch!
(click on the picture to view the interview)
In this juicy interview you will learn:
- what an evolved man is looking for in a woman, and how to be his match
- the #1 quality that will make you stand apart from other women
- deep insight into how men think so you can understand them and connect with them on a deeper level
Great men do exist and it doesn’t take that much to be the one who can attract and keep him if you just know the right steps to take AND you have a plan to get there. It’s not a cookie-cuter formula, it’s about figuring out how to be your authentic self while dating and let your heart shine.
If you’re feeling challenged with attracting great men, let’s talk! There’s no reason you shouldn’t be with a great guy who adores you and lights you up.
They say that if you want to find out what’s truly important to someone, look at where they spend their time and their money.
The truth is, what you spend your time and money on is a direct indication of what you’re currently valuing most. We spend time and money on things that are worth it to us.
So, I invite you to take a moment to get really real with yourself right now. How much are you investing in yourself, your self-love and your love life right now?
Do you FEEL worth it? Or do you feel like everything else deserves your time and attention first?
Here’s the cold hard truth that I’ve come to see in working with hundreds of women to find and keep love: If you don’t have the love that you want, you might not be investing enough time, attention and, yes, money in yourself to get there.
You might not be truly committed.
When you truly commit to something, the universe starts to take you seriously, and investing in yourself is the biggest way to tell the universe “I’m worth it. Send me the love that I want.”
As women, when we don’t have the love that we want, we tend to spend our precious time, energy and money on things that don’t really matter because we’re afraid to go after what we truly want: love.
In fact, my client Bell was doing this before we started working together. She recently wrote me to thank me and said:
“I want to thank you and let you know how grateful I am for you. For many years I was stuck in a cocoon wanting to spread my wings but couldn’t. I knew there was something powerful in me, but there was no one who could understand what I was feeling or going through.
She couldn’t do it on her own. In fact, she wanted to work with me so badly that she got a second job to do it. Talk about commitment.
And, because she truly committed to herself and put her time and money into loving herself, her love life shifted.
That guy that she was pushing away? He’s back in her life and even dropping hints that he wants to marry her.
She’s stopped reacting and causing fights with him and learned to respond with love.
She’s learned to embrace who she really is and she’s showing up as her authentic, funny self rather than hiding who she is in fear of what other people will think.
She’s had more abundance and opportunities show up in her life and she’s connected to her purpose for the first time.
She’s even starting a conscious parenting blog, which is something she would have never done had she not gotten the coaching support she needed.
I know that if you’re in my community you really, really want amazing love. So I want you to take a moment get real with yourself and ask yourself: what am I willing to do to get it?
When you truly commit, things shift. They did for Bell and they can for you too.
If you’re truly ready for a change and to get the love that you want, I’m calling you to step up and commit.
The first step? I’ve opened up 10 spots in my calendar for a 30 minute Love Clarity Call with me.
On the call, we’ll laser in on your unique love blocks, and I will give you my best advice on what you need to do to shift. If you’re a fit for working with me, we’ll discuss that too. Either way, you will leave the call with clarity on what to do next to get the love you want.
If you want your love life in 2014 to be better than it was this year, it starts with the decisions you make today.
Are you 100 percent committed to amazing love in 2014? Step up and claim it and the universe WILL respond.
PS: This will be your last chance to speak with me privately in 2013 and I’m not sure when I will be offering these calls again, so claim your spot asap before they run out.
I cried the biggest cries I’ve ever cried recently. It was a gut wrenching, knees on the floor sob fest.
The pain in my heart was so intense that it felt like I completely disappeared and dissolved into it. There was nothing present but me and my pain-soaked heart.
And I was GLAD to feel it.
Because I know a secret now that I didn’t know before I was a love coach.
Heartache, sadness and pain aren’t something to be avoided. Your deepest, darkest emotions aren’t your enemies; they’re the portal to your highest growth and to your happiness.
What I’ve come to see and know is that when you burn through pain by feeling your way through it, you will find that, on the other side, there is always only one thing present: JOY.
There was a time in my life where I was terrified to feel. Where I stuffed my emotions down and covered them with anxiety, drinking, eating disorders and obsessing about men.
Sure, those dark feelings were seemingly missing from my life. But something else was missing too: love.
And, what I’ve noticed in working with hundreds of women to help them find love is that if you don’t have the love that you want, there’s a good chance that you’re avoiding feeling your feelings too.
Because true love requires a truly open heart.
If you’re closing your heart off from feeling the darker emotions, the lighter ones can’t be felt either. You end up with a contracted heart that can’t fully let love in.
Here’s the phenomenon that I’ve noticed in working with my clients:
When they first start working with me they’ve got a belief structure that tells them “if you feel feeling X, you will die. Your world will end.”
The pattern is familiar. Something happened to them during childhood or at some point in their love life that was completely unexpected and emotionally devastating.
A particularly painful experience made them feel a certain way: rejected, abandoned, like a loser, stupid, unloved, not valuable etc. It felt like too much to handle.
The pain was so intense that a part of them felt like they would die. Their brain coded that feeling as unsafe and meticulously worked to make sure that they never felt it again.
Here’s an example:
I worked with a client for a Love Coaching Intensive who was positively terrified of feeling stupid. She felt stupid as a child and had worked her whole life to avoid feeling that particular feeling.
But because she was so afraid of looking and feeling stupid, she shut herself down when it came to love. She would never allow herself to be vulnerable enough to be truly seen and loved.
And because her heart wasn’t truly open, she attracted men with closed hearts too, fear-based men who didn’t treat her well.
I held a safe and loving space for her to truly feel into her dark emotions and fully process the feeling of feeling stupid.
Because of this, she finally felt safe realized that she would rather face this feeling if it came up again than closer herself off to love.
If you’re reading this right now and you don’t have the love that you want, it’s possible that you’re avoiding feeling certain feelings too. And that’s creating a block to love.
Wanna find out what yours frightful feelings are?
Ask yourself: “What is the feeling or experience that I’m terrified of feeling or having? What feeling do I continuously try to avoid feeling at all costs?”
That’s your love block.
So, how do you process through a feeling so you can unblock your path to love?
You can start by moving through it.
Use dance as a way to embody an emotion fully and let it move through your body. I learned this tip from Mama Gena’s School of the Womanly Arts and it has literally transformed my life.
Here are some tunes to get you started:
Dread feeling unworthy and like there’s something wrong with you? Put on this song and dance it out.
Worried that if you get too angry, people will abandon you. Thrash it out and beat some pillows to this song.
Afraid that if you actually connect with your sadness and loneliness, it will swallow you whole? It won’t. Use this song to feel it all the way.
Codependent and worried you will lose yourself in love? Dance through your addiction to love with this song (my personal fave)
Feel your way all the way through to love.
PS: Feeling your feelings is a sacred process that’s best to be done in a safe container like the Save Your Love Life Coaching Intensive.
It’s my 3-hour coaching intensive where we get you completely unblocked from what’s stopping you in love so you can finally get the love that you want.
If you’re super clear that you don’t want to wait for love any longer, and that you’re ready to invest in making love happen for you, sign up here for 20 minute discovery chat to see if an intensive with me is the right fit for you.
We’re almost sold out for December and January so book your spot to chat with me ASAP!