Did your parents criticize you growing up? Maybe they still do.
I grew up with critical parents, so I know first-hand how devastating the effect of being criticized by those who are supposed to love you most can be.
It hurts. We take it personally. And that criticism can tend to wreak havoc on our love lives, even if the criticism happened years ago.
As kids we are super vulnerable and we just want to be loved.
When we receive criticism from our parents, it can set off a dangerous thought pattern that goes something like this:
They are supposed to love me unconditionally
Because they are criticizing me, they don’t love me
So, there must be something wrong with me
I must be unlovable
Can you relate?
The thing is, you can’t change how your parents treated you in the past.
And, your parents may never change, but your relationship to their love can.
In fact, it MUST if you want to create happy, healthy love.
It’s not enough to “know” they love you. You HAVE TO FEEL IT on a deep level, in your bones.
Because until you FEEL on a deep level that your parents love you (or loved you if they are deceased), you’ll always be searching like a hungry ghost trying to find that missing love in someone else.
And your romantic partner can and should give you LOTS of love, but he can’t fill that space where your parents’ love should be.
And your parents cant either, actually.
The only one who can is YOU.
You see, how loved you feel by your parents has nothing to do with them. It has to do with how you PERCEIVE the love that they gave you.
And you’re in control of that. In this short video, I’m going to show you how to deal with critical parents and restore feeling loved by them.
This exercise will restore a feeling of love between you and your parents and set you free to attract and create healthy love with a partner who loves you up and treats you right.
You are loved. I promise.
PS: After you try this exercise, comment below and let me know what shifted for you. I would love to know how it helped.
It’s cliche, but “daddy issues” and “mommy issues” really do mess up your love life if they’re not handled. Until you can heal on the inside, you continue to attract partners who mirror what went on with your parents.
You want to be FREE to create love by choice, not by default based on what you think you didn’t get from your parents or how you perceive they hurt you.
The truth underneath it all is love, and once you FEEL loved on a deep level, you are truly FREE to love.
I couldn’t take my eyes off her.
For two days straight I stared at this woman, enthralled.
She was beautiful, yes, but there was something more.
In a room full of 200 beautiful women, she stood out. There was something special about her, and I had to find out more.
Who was this woman, and why did she have me so mesmerized?
Her name is Janelle, and she was one of 10 S-Factor (pole dancing) teachers at an S-Factor Retreat that I attended in Palm Springs earlier this month.
And the thing that had me unable to peel my eyes away from her was that she was just so…present.
The purpose of the retreat was to reach a state of “Body Bliss”, being truly comfortable in your own body and letting your body guide you, not your mind.
Janelle had Body Bliss down. Looking at her, I saw a sexy, confident woman, but more than that, I saw a beautiful creature.
She was so present in her body that she was almost like an animal. All pure presence, emotion and instinct.
This is a woman who fully receives every bit of juicy goodness that’s available when you are fully present in your body. And that is SO attractive
And the truth is, a woman who is truly in her body is the most attractive woman there is.
A woman in her body is trustable, because she is connected to her truth.
A woman in her body is inherently sensual and sexual and free to follow the natural desires of her body.
A woman in her body is a woman who can love deeply and receive deep love, because she’s connected to and ruled by her heart, not her mind.
A woman in her body is confident, and she gets what she wants.
In a world filled with neurotic women who live in their heads, the present woman stands out from the crowd and men flock to her.
Presence is one of my secrets to being irresistible to men.
But this experience of being irresistibly drawn to Janelle shook me up, in a good way.
Even after the retreat was over, I couldn’t get her out of my mind.
I was telling my friend David about her via text and what he told me stopped me in my tracks.
He said: “That woman you saw in class is what you are heading towards and that is why you couldn’t take your eyes off of her. I see that woman in the pictures you have on Facebook.”
I realized in that moment that what drew me so much to Janelle was that she represents a future-potential for me that I have yet to fully actualize.
She represents the next step in my evolution as a woman. Something that’s already within me, that other people are starting to see, but that I have yet to fully claim.
That animal-like state of pure presence is meant for me too.
I wasn’t hot for her….I was hot for the woman I knew I would become when I stepped up and claimed that piece in her that I so admired.
My girl crush on her was really me crushing on future-me.
And I’m the kind of woman that once I see something I want, I go after it full-force.
I’m allergic to not actualizing my full potential…knowing that Janelle’s got something that I want, that is actually TOTALLY available to me has me fired up, and I decided i won’t stop until I get it.
So, I signed up and committed to weekly pole dancing class. I also signed up for the 5-day S-Factor retreat in Hawaii next year.
Because I know that if I want what she has, I’ve gotta do what she does.
Is it a serious investment? Yes, it is. But I’m committed. AND, I’m totally worth it.
One of the reasons I’ve grown so quickly is because anytime I’ve seen a woman who has what I want, I’ve gotten close to her.
I’ve worked with her and learned her secrets so I could have them too.
So, which woman have you been admiring lately?
Is there any woman you’ve been crushing on and thinking “I want what she has?”.
The truth is, what she has, and even better, is meant for you too, and all you have to do is step up and claim it and then commit to actualizing that potential in yourself.
It’s possible that if you’re reading this, or if you’ve been following me on Facebook, there might even be something that I have that you want too:
- Being irresistible to Men
These are qualities that I’ve consciously cultivated in myself, and if any of them lights you up, it’s because you’re meant to shine in those areas too.
But whether it’s me, or some other woman who has what you want, you won’t get what she has by just wanting it.
You’ll get what she has by doing what she did to get there…by learning her secrets, her thought patterns, and the actions that worked for her, and then doing that too.
So, if you’ve been following me here and wanting a piece of what I’ve got, I would be happy to set you up with some of the steps and actions that I took to get here…to be a woman who is sexy, confident, attractive and super magnetic to great men.
If you’re interested in coming a little closer to me and learning my secrets, I invite you to go ahead and book time in my calendar with me now for a complimentary 20 minute Love Clarity Call.
Whatever piece it is that you are wanting to claim (sexiness, confidence with men, attracting the right men, flirting) I’ll give you my strategy to get there.
So you won’t be crushing anymore on someone else, but living fully as the beautiful version of the woman you are MEANT to be…the woman that has the love she wants.
Go ahead and click here to book your time to speak with me personally.
I know I’m a LOVE coach, but today I want to talk about fear.
Because what I know is that the #1 thing that stops women from creating amazing love is fear.
If you weren’t afraid of having the love that you wanted, you would have it. You would be a clear energetic match for it.
It really is that simple.
So take a moment right now and check in.
What do you fear will happen if you actually take a risk and go for the love you desire?
What are you most afraid of right now in your love life?
Whatever comes up in your mind is what’s stopping you from love.
Picture it this way:
Imagine there’s a cave, and inside the cave is the man and relationship of your dreams.
But right outside of the cave is a huge, fire-breathing dragon standing in your way.
That dragon? He represents all of your fears.
What keeps him alive are the fear-based thoughts about love.
Every time you fear that you’re unworthy of love, that you’ll just get hurt again, that no man will love the real you, that you’re too old, that you’re just meant to be single, etc, that dragon gets bigger and bigger and seems scarier and scarier.
The thing about the dragon though, is that he’s not real.
Your fears about love ARE NOT real.
Only love is real.
Your DESIRE for amazing love is real. Your fear is not.
The way to get past that dragon and into the cave where your man is, is to realize that your fears about love are not real, and to focus on your DESIRE.
To be more committed to reaching your desire than you are to staying stuck in your fear.
Do this now:
Take a moment right now and focus on your LOVE DESIRE.
What do you want MOST in your love life right now? What result in your love life would feel like a dream come true?
WHY do you want it?
Don’t stop until you can FEEL in your body what your version of amazing love would feel like.
And I want you to notice something.
When you’re focused on your DESIRE, it feels GOOD. You don’t actually feel the fear. The fear disappears because it’s not real.
And that’s the trick to creating the love that you want.
The more you can focus on your desire, rather than your fear, the quicker your desire will come to you.
We get what we focus on.
So, if your love desire hasn’t manifested yet, you want to look at your thoughts and where they’ve been focused.
Have you been letting your fears around love be bigger than your desire and prevent you from moving forward?
The truth is, even though your fears feel as scary as a fire-breathing dragon, they’re just not real. Only love is.
And the only thing scarier than facing the dragon and going for the love you want, is never having it at all.
You’re braver than that.
And that awesome man in the cave?
He’s waiting for you.
PS: Sometimes when there’s a fire-breathing dragon standing in between you and love, it helps to have a fairy godmother by your side. That’s where I come in.
The reason my clients find the men of their dreams is because I teach them how to feel CONFIDENT in love.
I teach them how to focus on their love desire until it manifests and to not give into their doubts or go into crazy-town when their fears around dating come up.
If you are READY for love and to claim your Man, I want to speak with you.
I’ve opened up my calendar just this week and have 5 spaces openfor a Ready For Love Discovery Call.
You and I will spend 15 minutes on the phone and I’ll break down your specific plan to create the love that you want.
(there’s a limited number of spots so please only sign up if you are truly ready for love now)
Here’s what happens when you focus on your love desire more than your fear:
My client Jessica was willing to face her fear of being vulnerable and showing her authentic self on dates. This fear was so big it had kept her single and not able to get past 1 date with a man for 2 years.
But, with my help, she faced her fire-breathing dragon and entered the cave. And inside was a great man who chose her.
My client Elisabeth was terrified to be feminine with men because she had been masculine for so long and feared that if she didn’t control, she wouldn’t get the man she wanted.
But she faced her dragon, embraced her feminine and found an amazing man.